By Tamma Ford

Most of us spend our waking hours around people.  My guess is that most of those hours are spent

• attempting to make those people happy,
• getting them to say/act like they are happy with you,
• getting them to do what you need them to do,
• dodging doing what they’re trying to persuade you to do, and
• making your best effort to get along with them all.

How many of us are coming from a loving place in any of these hours?  It’s almost as though the human being is wired to be skeptical, disapproving, judgmental and distrusting of everyone else on the planet.

Well, our ability to love unconditionally is indeed a natural part of each human, with each of us born with it that ability.

To love unconditionally requires that we feel secure and safe – that our survival is not an issue.  This is primal.  But we organized societies and wrote laws.  We formed clans and developed traditions.  We extended family groups and established expectations.  And all these with the sole purpose of keeping its members safe and secure so that they survive.  So why didn’t we return to our unconditionally loving state within those safe groups?

Now, in our organized societies, as adults, all we need to do to return to our innate unconditional loving person is to decide to do so.  But with this decision comes the need to let go (if only we knew how) of those old survival programs.

Here’s the rub.  Those survival programs are lifetimes old, and well ingrained in our subconscious.

We need a practical way, a measurable way to lift these old programs, memories and feelings out of our subconscious.

What makes me say this?  It’s those old programs and feelings that are covering up our ability to love unconditionally!

By Tamma Ford

I hate those articles that give you ’7 ways how to feel good’ … ’7 ways how to be happy’.

How do you do 7 ways?  Seven?!  I’ll give you just one and show you how to do it all day every day!

Here it is: Decide.  Decide to be happy!

Henry Ford (no relation to me) said, “You’re about as happy as you decide to be!”

True.  I’ve seen it time and again.  What is happiness (or feeling good)?  It is a decision!

In my work, I’ve met plenty of people who have decided to swim in the negativity.  They wallow in it.  They are in familiar territory (face it – all humans are!  We are a negative crowd!)

I have also met plenty who have done the opposite with great success.  They decided.  They chose happiness in their world and feeling good in their life.

Deciding is a mental thing.  It is self-talk.  This kind of self-talk is positive.  You tell yourself, “I am delighted, happy, joyful, all day today!”

You don’t say, “I’m going to be…”  You don’t say, “I will try to be…”  That is futuristic at best and tentative at worst!  And it puts your experience of happiness or feeling good way out in the unreachable future!

You are in the here and now.  That is the only space and time you live in!

You say, “I am…”

And now?  How do you do it?  You keep your eyes open.  You stay vigilant.

Keeping your eyes open means you are watching the opportunities to actually be delighted, happy, joyful come to you.  That is very important.  The opportunities come to you.  Yes, they come when you are welcoming to them.

Being vigilant means you are careful of your self-talk.  You do not say to yourself, “Boy, this sucks… Gee, why does she have to be so negative to me? …Gosh, I have heartburn!”.

You keep your thoughts as positive as you are able to, today, right now.

I did this and kept a little mantra going in my head.  Some days it was, “See the delight.”  I would repeat that to myself over and over again throughout that day.  Other days it was, “My life is joyful – see the joy.” Or “I see and feel the joy.”  And I would repeat that to myself again and again that day.

Does this sound easy?  It is simple!  But what makes it hard to do is your old habits…They get in the way.  Because that is the nature of a habit!

Your old habits are probably about judging how bad the situation is.  Your old habits are about thinking the most negative thing about a situation or person … or how you feel.  (I’m not picking on you – all humans do this.)

So what do you do when a negative thought comes up, or you want to say something negative?  You pull out your mantra – for instance, “I choose to be happy!”  Or “Happiness is my choice now.”

And then you draw yourself back into your own personal positive, joyful energies.

Does it take practice?  Yes, for most people.  Is it worth it?  Yes, absolutely – for everyone!

The power of your personal decisions will run or ruin your life.  That’s a given.

Your personal power is in your very real choice of what you think, what you say and, in the end this is how you will feel.  It is in your very real decision-making power!

Decide to feel happy every day.  It’s just one thing to do, after all!  What do you decide?

Forget trying to figure out the source of your stress and how to manage it better.
Nothing to figure out!  Because I’m going to tell you right now what is happening.

Here’s the definition of stress and its sole source:  It’s feelings you haven’t let go.  It’s feelings from your past that you are still (without knowing it till now, perhaps) holding onto.

Every human has an oversupply of feelings.  Just look around you for confirmation!  Kids express their feelings (usually) more readily than adults.  As we “grow up”, we understand that it is not as socially accepted to express our feelings out loud or in public, so we stuff them down

It takes a lot of energy and attention to stuff down feelings!  And, voila!  Stress happens.  Yes, that is what stress is – trying to (and sometimes succeeding) hold down feelings from the past so that the world sees that you are one cool cat…in control…in charge of your life and living.

Except that you are dying inside!  You don’t feel in control!

And this situation, over days and years, spills over into bad health situations, soured relationships with loved ones, and scrambling out in the world to continue to make a good showing of success…

It’s killing you!  And that is too bad, since there are methods out there (our company presents a powerful one) that can help you let go of that oversupply of feelings so that you get back into your naturally peaceful and effortless flow.

Here is the best part:  you don’t need to know which feelings are the issue; you don’t need to know when you started “storing” them; you don’t manage these feelings ever again – you let them go, completely and permanently.

Bye-bye stress!

Don’t let anyone tell you that medication or drugs or long-term therapy are your answers…until you try a self-directed way of letting go of what I call the Original Stressors:  Feelings.

Buy ARC’s Foundational Course for Living Your Potential® to get started right now!  Hundreds of thousands of people from all backgrounds and activities are doing it – active military, pre-school kids and school students, business owners, and retirees are doing this work with success … and releasing all their (former!) sources of stress … all on their own, without a therapist or prescription drugs!

Follow their lead … Release your oversupply of feelings and get back to a place (maybe for the very first time!) of peace of mind and body and control over your life.

By Tamma Ford

The Law of Attraction is real, and works big-time for me. I think it is a great start – because it gets you thinking more positively and expansively about life and living. It is really just a starting point, though, and here is why.

I have noticed an omission in the Law of Attraction / The Secret School of personal growth and manifestation: They never mention that living a life of ‘wanting something’ is noisy. And that living life from ‘having it all’ is a quiet life.

Why is that?

When we want or desire something, Ego is all over us. Ego? It is simply that voice in our head that prods us on to make it happen, to need to have it happen, to tell us that we are not doing enough to force it to happen.

Ego is also that voice that says, “Others have it; you have got to have that… and have better, more, greater than they have.” In other words – lust! And maybe grief or fear… or even pride.

Ego is a simple phenomenon, really. It is our personal collection of thoughts, feelings and mental pictures. Ego can manifest as that voice in our head. Ego can show itself through body discomfort that is really just you – trying to hold on to feelings that want to escape. Ego is that movie behind your forehead and eyes that endlessly plays all those imaginary scenarios, dreams, nightmares… while you watch… not knowing how to silence the whole mess.

The Law of Attraction may not really want you to continue in the noise – but it doesn’t show you how to stop it! Yikes!

Get rid of Ego noise. Adopt a way of releasing the Ego noise – those feelings, thoughts and pictures that keep you in a tiny space of wanting something. Expand into the silence where you have everything.

Move into your Power. Practice a way of letting go of Ego’s hold on you. Allow the Silent Knowingness of your creative power to bring you everything.

The Universe does respond to you – command it! Do it: Let go of the noise of Ego, and allow yourself to move into havingness… in the quiet silence of just Being who and what you are.

Ego noise is the blocker to having – attracting – your heart’s desire and any of your goals. It is full of feelings of inadequacy, lack of confidence, fears. It is full of mental pictures and thoughts of disaster and failure and fear.

Let go of that – and what is left is your natural silence. The silence that says I can have it all. The silence that is the Universe, ready to bring you into abundance and your natural creative power.

Practice a methodology – they are out there! – for letting go of Ego’s interference. And you’ll find you are attracting everything – anything! – you wish to create for yourself in this life of yours.

The Law of Attraction is real. Don’t let Ego tell you differently! Move into the silence, the confidence, of having. Let go of Ego!

Is it possible to have a social conscience and be imperturbable at the same time?

On the surface there seems to be a conflict. How can you be imperturbable (not bothered) and have a social conscience at the same time?

First some definitions:

When somebody has a social conscience they see actions done to other people that they view as “unjust.”  Most people would see whatever’s going on as being wrong but what separates the socially conscious people from most is their feeling of empathy and wanting to make things “right.” Those with a social conscience see it as their responsibility to take action they often say, ”I can’t stand around and do nothing.” Having empathy for others and wanted to help is a great thing.

Being imperturbable means that whatever is going on does not disturb you. This does not mean that you lay down in a field of poppies and go to sleep. This does not mean that you have a Pollyanna attitude that says everything is fine and merrily skip away to your next adventure. It simply means that you are not wound up and disturbed by what’s going on.

So think about it, if you see an injustice and you become angry or agitated does this help you? Does this help the victims? Does this help anybody? Of course it does not. But what it does do is to bring you down into a lower energy. And in that lower energy you simply have no ability to change things.

If you want to change something out there you must first change yourself within. Gandhi said “be the change you want to see”.  You must look at these feelings and release them. You must look at what is behind these feelings and release that. When you have reached that state where you have no attachments or aversions you  are imperturbable and quiet. You are also in a very high energy state from where it is possible to affect change. From this quiet high energy state intuition will talk to you. You will know first of all should you take any action and if so, what that action would be. It may be something as simple as saying the right thing to the right person at the right time. It could be that you organize a group to bring awareness to the situation. Or it might be you simply give somebody a hug.

You may not know what actions are needed to correct the situation, but one thing is for sure,  as long as you are stirred up feeling angry, feeling frustrated, feeling hurt you are only hurting yourself. Those feelings do not affect anybody else.  Hitting yourself on the head with a bat does not hurt anybody but you.

So, when you see an injustice become aware of what you’re feeling, and release those feelings.

By doing so you lift yourself up, and you lift those around you. In this way you can be most effective at having a positive influence on your world.

By Tamma Ford

What people around you are going to notice if you are using Releasing regularly?

First, they will notice a shift in your attitude.

Then they’ll see you’ve somehow, without changing things, gotten healthier and more vibrant.

Next, they will notice that people around you behave “better”.

And finally, they’ll notice how loved and happy they feel when they are with you … and end up wanting some of what you’ve got!

Believe me when I say that others will notice these shifts in you before you do … And it will be ALL good!

Here’s a sampling of comments that our Releasing Friends (people from ARC’s Releasing Community) have been hearing from their family, co-workers and friends … as they “Do Nothing (different) But Releasing Only.”  We are making REAL changes in our everyday (noticeable) lives.  Why don’t you, too?

• You have a new spring in your step. [confused look on his face as he says this]
• You look happy!??? [confused look on her face as she says this]
• Have you lost weight? [confused look on his face as he says this]
• The kids are begging to see you. [with surprise, because an awful divorce is underway]
• They prefer for you to be one in charge next time.  Good job, nice turn of events! [bewildered look on his face]
• You seem less angry lately… [gingerly, but with some hope in the voice]
• Honey, you look so young!  [wondering he's been missing here?]
• Sweetheart! Thanksgiving with the folks’ went well with us, don’t you think?  [confused look as he wonders why…]
• I hear you haven’t taken your med’s for 2 weeks now!  Well, I never would’ve guessed!  [skeptically worrying if you are crazy … and are going to pop!]
• They cancelled your surgery?  What?!  No more evidence of ­­__, so no need to operate?! [All the while thinking 'The Doctors must've misdiagnosed; how did she pull that off?!']
• What? You’re actually agreeing to do this?  You’ve never wanted to do this before!!  [wondering why you look so pleased about it]

By Tamma Ford

There are some things that we don’t realize we are doing day after day, because we are on auto-pilot so much of the time – and it is these very things that are ruining our potential for Being Happy!

A key thought to keep in mind is that we are not Human Doings, but Human Beings.

Some things we do that keep us from our Being-ness?  You’ll recognize them in a flash!

• Scheduling some activity to do – for every hour of your day.
• Worrying at night.
• Staying on the computer long after you are sleepy in the evening … or done with your work at the office.

So let’s look at them.

Scheduling a “doing something” activity so that you are constantly occupied in the world?  It is just this that keeps you from just Being Quiet with Self.  (And frankly, many people prefer to avoid being with the Quiet Self.  It makes them nervous, which is why they schedule other things in the first place…).

These activities include shopping (mall trolling anyone?) and errands, watching TV (and falling asleep as you do), cleaning or organizing or doing repairs around the house (or pretending to do this), doing sport, working (or pretending to do so), cooking and eating, taking care of the family (wouldn’t they like some non-doing time as well?)…

Another thing you do – and it is so common and such a long-time habit that you don’t even notice it – is that tossing and turning at night with (primarily) worry, when you could be peacefully sleeping … or just Being with your Quiet Self.

Hand in hand with worry comes trying to solve problems that may or may not be real.  Or remembering past hurts or pains and bringing them right into your present here-and-now.  Trying to figure things out and re-hashing the past (even if it was just earlier today) in the middle of the night keeps you all churned up emotionally – frustrated when you don’t really get an answer, and impatient when you have one and can’t try it out till morning!  That noisy Mind is doing something … It is keeping you from your Being-ness.  It is keeping you from the quiet happiness of Human Being-ness that is your innate nature!

Another thing we all seem to “do” is play with our toys – and our technology gadgets are part of the toys, when you think about it.  Do you really need to check your email or Facebook account hourly?  Do you really want to surf the internet just to be doing something?  Do you really use or want all those “apps” for your phone?  Are you discouraging your kids from Human Being-ness and human interaction and communication by setting this example … that they willing mimic?

Come from a place that your chosen technology is a set of tools that actually serve you … not enslave you.  And return some of that tech-time to Being Human.

Get quiet for a moment and ask yourself why you avoid your Being-ness so much?  Remember a time when you were “forced” into quiet contemplation – a time of illness stuck in bed, or a morning in church or temple, or those moments just before falling asleep?  Didn’t you feel peaceful … if only for a moment?

Those moments of peacefulness and quiet mind and body are what I call our Human Being-ness.  They reset our clocks, so to speak.  They bring life “out there” back into a perspective of manageability.  They often feel like our only moments of personal power…

Examine your Human Doing-ness.  What is it you need to quit Doing … in order to have time to Be?